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Post by corydaze on Feb 7, 2007 22:46:45 GMT
I don't think words alone will work especially not with little kids, toddlers, etc. At that age they're too young, little kids just don't think like that. It may sound harsh but a little slap on the hand may actually shock them into not doing it again and it may even embarass them that they don't want to do it again. Little kids just aren't going to listen to reason, it doesn't make them see why their behavior is wrong.
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Post by thesneaky on Feb 8, 2007 7:02:30 GMT
Yeah that is my exact viewpoint People take it out of context when I say it's ok to hit a kid. I obviously don't mean like WHACK.
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Post by corydaze on Feb 8, 2007 8:16:44 GMT
Yeah well obviously it's out of order to hit a kid just to take your anger out on them even when they haven't done anything, that would just send out a bad message.
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Post by heroic on Feb 8, 2007 8:27:01 GMT
^Besides, we're talking about normal parents, not those who go Rambo on their kids for the smallest misdemeanor (I'm afraid, those types I don't care for). Parents who actually care enough not to go crazy on their kids and just give a little slap on the hand. The idea is to give a little slap, not WHACK, as thesneaky said and hopefully the child will be jolted into thinking that what he did was wrong.
You know, like how those cavemean learnt that certain food was bad to eat, like if it was bitter, they shouldn't eat it. The children are still learning by instinct and need a more concrete example than words. --The latter of which you should provide anyway afterwards.
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Post by corydaze on Feb 8, 2007 8:31:33 GMT
Sadly though that does happen. A lot of parents do go crazy on their kids and often give then a good whack to take out their anger.
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Post by thesneaky on Feb 10, 2007 0:29:40 GMT
I know. And THAT'S bad. But you can't just tell a kid not to do something cos they don't get it. It's like when I was little I was feedign a turkey and my mum told me to hold my hand out straight or it would bite me, but I didn't and it bit me. I had to learn for myself.
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Post by Hayles x x on Feb 21, 2007 11:35:30 GMT
Kids will understand yes and no if you tell them enough
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Post by thesneaky on Feb 23, 2007 8:29:34 GMT
They'll understand but it doesn't mean they won't stop doing it.
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Post by jemma on Mar 3, 2007 15:43:05 GMT
Kids will understand yes and no if you tell them enough thesneaky's right. Children will understand if you tell them enough times and while they might realise that they're behaviour is wrong that doesn't mean they'll stop doing it. There is no point in having rules and boundries if we aren't going to punish people for breaking them. A smack will humiliate the child and shock them into not doing the same thing again. Words won't do anything - they're just going to repeat their behavior.
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Post by lildancer69 on Mar 4, 2007 18:20:06 GMT
i think its wrong to hit children, there are other ways of handeling situations that are better
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Post by Rosanna-Calv,Jazzy&Staz 4ever! on Mar 6, 2007 19:52:09 GMT
I am definitely completely against it. I'm not saying I'd call a social worker or anything if somebody smacked their child on the hand, but I wouldn't approve either. I don't believe children learn anything from being beaten. I realize a smack on the hand is not beating, but depending on the age of the child, he or she may feel that way. Reasoning with them, talking with them, telling them off, yelling even, I think it's better than abusing. Then of course, yelling at your child day out and day in could really damage the kid mentally and that's not good either, but I still think a child who's been yelled at will be better off than a child who's been beaten and abused. Both is wrong, but obviously nobody with children can raise them properly without ever telling them off. They need to know the line between right and wrong and if a parent can't teach them that without hitting them, then there is something wrong with the parents, not the children.
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Post by danny on Mar 10, 2007 0:32:52 GMT
People make too big a deal of this whole hitting kids thing anyway. I'm not saying that people should go around hitting kids into oblivion, there is a line obviously. It's just, a little smack every now and again isn't going to deeply scar the kid. I don't want my kid growing up to be a rat with no discipline. My parents hit me when I deserved it, and do you see me knocking out kids when they annoy me? Do I seem unstable? I don't think parents should hit other people's kids though. That definetly isn't a line that should be crossed. I couach a netball team of 7 and 8 year olds and they annoy the nuts out of me, but I would never, ever touch them. Exactly. Some people overreact about the whole thing. We're not talking about going crazy and giving them a smack just because you feel like it. Yes that would be considered child abuse and could damage the child. But when the child genually has done something wrong then a little slap on the hand is fine. Just as long as it's not too hard.
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Post by connor on Mar 17, 2007 20:37:56 GMT
People make too big a deal of this whole hitting kids thing anyway. I'm not saying that people should go around hitting kids into oblivion, there is a line obviously. It's just, a little smack every now and again isn't going to deeply scar the kid. I don't want my kid growing up to be a rat with no discipline. My parents hit me when I deserved it, and do you see me knocking out kids when they annoy me? Do I seem unstable? I don't think parents should hit other people's kids though. That definetly isn't a line that should be crossed. I couach a netball team of 7 and 8 year olds and they annoy the nuts out of me, but I would never, ever touch them. Exactly. Some people overreact about the whole thing. We're not talking about going crazy and giving them a smack just because you feel like it. Yes that would be considered child abuse and could damage the child. But when the child genually has done something wrong then a little slap on the hand is fine. Just as long as it's not too hard. Exactly. I find it so hilarius when people completley overreact about the whole thing and act as if a slap on the hand is child abuse! Really young children won't listen to reason, their minds don't work that way. Yes if you bang into them enough times that their behaviour is wrong they may get the message eventually but that doesn't mean they'll stop doing it or learn from it. A smack will humiliate them into not wanting to repeat their behaviour and let's be honest here. Noone wants their kids to grow up into total brats but if you don't enforce some kind of discipline then that's exactly what will happen.
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Post by Rosanna-Calv,Jazzy&Staz 4ever! on Mar 20, 2007 15:20:48 GMT
Yes, I agree. I'm not saying a slap on the hand is child abuse, but that's not really what we're discussing here (at least that's not what the headline says). Telling kids off and giving them a slap on the hand or grab a hold of their arm (not too hard or violent obviously) is okay, maybe even necessary, but the issue here is actual hitting and that to me is just sick. It tells something about the parents and how bad they are at parenting, it doesn't say anything about the behaviour of the children.
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Post by kayla on Apr 27, 2007 20:35:03 GMT
I think I'm at a bit of an advantage here as I'm a mother myself and I've had first hand experience in this kind of thing.
I don't see anything wrong with it myself. I think a little slap on the hand is fine if the child has done something wrong and it's not even like we're talking about going crazy and hitting them for no reason. That is unacceptable.
I've slapped my daughter on the hand when she's done something wrong, although thankfully I've only had to do it a few times, but each time she's learned her lesson. I've actually embarrased her enough so she won't do it again. Would I have had such positive results if I'd just explained what she'd done was wrong? No probably not. She wouldn't have learned her lesson that way. I don't want my daughter growing up to be a brat. It's the same when I was kid. My mother hit me sometimes when I'd done something wrong and I turned out okay.
You can't just tell a young child that their behavior is wrong, and I'm speaking from personal experience here when I say that they just don't think that way. If you don't enforce some boundries then children are never going to learn.
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